Tough Questions – I Am Pro-life But I Can’t Force My Morality On Anyone Else?

This is an argument I get so often from people who don’t want to take a stand against abortion or get involved with pro-life work. They always say that other people don’t believe that abortion is killing a human so we can’t force “our morality” on them. Just because we are pro-life does not mean we should tell someone who is not pro-life they should not have an abortion.

I will be honest; this to me is really just a cop-out, an excuse for people to not take a stand or get involved. The fact is, abortion is the taking of a human being’s life and whether someone refuses to see the truth does not change a clear fact. Just because you say that you don’t believe something that is true does not make it untrue.

Let’s look at a few instances in law where people’s disagreement with a truth does not make a difference in the law at all:

1. NAMBLA, an organization who believes that it is morally ok for grown men to sleep with young boys. Yes, this is a real organization who really believes the rest of the world is “pushing their morality”

on them by enforcing child molestation laws on them. Should we change the law to allow these perverse men to have sexual relations with young boys just because they believe it is ok? Of course not.

2. Civil Rights Laws, there are still those who think minorities should be segregated and treated as less then human. The whole Civil Rights Movement was forcing a morality on America that needed to be forced. it was imperative that we, as a nation, stood against those who would treat any human person as less than human and establish personhood rights for every single human person.

3. Women’s Suffrage, there are still those who believe that women should not have the right to vote… I think you get the point.

The fact is, we, as a nation, have a duty to pass laws and protect people from in-human treatment whether or not someone disagrees or not. We, as fellow humans, have a duty to stand up for any fellow human person when he or she is being oppressed, dehumanized or killed by the thousands every day.

Morality is forced on people every day and that is not a bad thing. We force our morality on criminals when they commit crimes, we force our morality on bar owners when we tell them they can’t allow smoking in their establishments. The fact is that almost all laws are forcing some form of morality on someone.

I understand that some people think that life does not begin at fertilization, but that does not change the fact that it does. The moment the sperm and egg are united, a unique human person is formed and has the right to full protection as a human person. When that child is “terminated” or “aborted”, that is an act of homicide.


1. the killing of one human being by another.

2. a person who kills another; murderer.

So back to the question at hand – I Am Pro-life But I Can’t Force My Morality On Anyone Else?

Yes. In fact, you have a moral and biblical obligation to take a stand and love your neighbor as your self. ( Luke 10:27 ) If you know that your neighbor ( fellow human person) is being killed by the thousands every day, you must stand up and be a voice for them.

5 responses to “Tough Questions – I Am Pro-life But I Can’t Force My Morality On Anyone Else?

  • Michael Joseph Donahue

    Word up! I just heard a young Christian say, “you can’t legislate morality.” My response was that all legislation (passing laws) is moral legislation. What power would the government have if its laws were not founded on morality?
    I think it’s also important to understand that our government is founded on the idea that it gives the people the power, and then recognizes that those people are under God’s rule, hence the slogan “one nation under God.”
    So every law that is passed is passed by people who are expected to recognize their position under God’s morality. But this whole system broke down when our country lost its Christian consensus. Now the only authority people recognize is the government. We have ended up with a self perpetuating system where the government hands the power over to the people and the people hand the power back over to the government.
    We have to recognize that there are certain things the government can’t do, like cause people to find their morality in God again, they need the gospel for that. That’s why it’s so good to see groups like Stand True linking the gospel with the Pro-Life cause.
    When people accept the Lord Jesus as their Savior they will recognize His moral authority over them, and be able to influence others to do the same.

  • acultofpersonality

    I guess I’m just really dumb on this subject. I see from watching the horrible videos of abortion that it’s murder. I have no doubt about it -it makes me sick. I’m not sure how I can stop another woman from doing it though – just like I’m not sure how I can stop street gangs from shooting each other or doing drive bys. I can pray- and I should do so more often, but honestly? How can you or I stop someone who’s “hell” bent on doing this? I feel kind of overwhelmed by it – I really believe that the person who commits abortion -the person seeking it the person performing it -will have to answer for it because it’s their personal choice to have committed the crime. If you know someone who’s committed adultery – back in biblical days when Christ walked among us, it was customary to stone those people to death. Well – we don’t do that anymore – probably because we’d have a lot less folks walking around in the United States if we did – think about it! So – are we responsible for not protesting outside the adulterers house and place of business? Why aren’t we trying to fix it all? It’s all worthy of death……………….I just don’t know where the cut-off point is and I don’t know where I fit in -I’m not going to have an abortion – I can promise you that. But I can’t promise you that I can personally stop another female from doing it – and I honestly don’t want to be made to feel responsible for it because I didn’t do -what? Restrain her? Yell at her? Brow beat her? Seriously -what can we do about it peeps? Unless you want to enforce ALL of God’s rules from the old testament – and I mean ALL of them – aren’t we just making ourselves look really hypocritical? If you want to get serious about it – you’ll have to pronounce judgment on these people who have abortions and perform abortions as murderers and institute the death penalty. Until you want to do that – I don’t know how I can help. Because if we institute the death penalty for these crimes of murder – I will volunteer my time to pull switches. Outside of that – I honestly don’t know what to do. Please help me understand where I’ve gone wrong. I find all this disturbing but I feel helpless to do anything about it. I can control MY behavior …………… I responsible for another person’s behavior? If so -then we’re ALL in a lot of trouble- who’s going to heaven if we’re going to answer for everyone else’s sin?
    Thanks – just confused I guess about the issue – and wishing it wasn’t an issue because then this horrifying murder of infants wouldn’t be occurring.

  • SCGS

    Dear acultof personality, How about educating people on the horrors of abortion? I convinced two people that abortion was wrong, but showing them what it really was. If they tell two friends, and they tell two friends… you get the idea. If you come across a woman who wants to have one, how about you lovingly try to talk her out of it by showing her she is loved, her baby is loved, and you are willing to walk the walk with her. Take her to a pregnancy center that has resources for her, like Grace pregnancy center. Care for her and for her unborn child. Help her see abortion is not the “right choice”. Saying you will pull the switch is honestly a little hard of heart. To truly love another person we must want good for that person for their own sake. I don’t want anyone to die. Not mother, not child, not father. We are talking about the salvation of souls. And for the matter of adultery, if you know someone who is thinking about cheating, you should tell them it is wrong. As for why we aren’t trying to fix it all, we actually are, but different people have different gifts. Some focus on the slaughter of the unborn. Others focus on the reparation of marriage. Still others feed the homeless. Each one of us using our gifts as God intended. If we all did this the world would be so much better of a place.

    “I can do things you cannot, you can do things I cannot; together we can do great things.”
    ― Mother Teresa

  • Marcella Franseen

    The best way to “stop” a woman from having an abortion is to love her, listen to her, educate her about abortion and its risks, and the life inside her, and show her there are other options, and that God loves both her and the baby inside her. The best place to have the opportunity to help is at a prolife pregnancy center or outside an abortion clinic. Most pregnancy centers will train you in how to talk with an abortion minded woman or man, how to share the Gospel with them, how to connect them to resources in the community, and many centers have other tools like ultrasound. If you do not feel called to get involved in this way, then, yes, pray, educate yourself on this issue, current laws, and the Word of God so you can be a voice for the voiceless when opportunities to share arise, vote prolife, and support legislation that protects the unborn as people, and donate money to organizations that fight for the unborn, those facing crisis pregnancies, and those who are post-abortion. There is a lot you can do.

  • David Ashby

    Hi ‘a cult of personality’. I can only answer a few of your questions and ask you a few too. One of your questions is, if we work against abortion then do we not also have to work to follow all of the OT laws too – do we have to stone adulterers? The answer is in the gospels in John chapter 8.

    The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

    But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

    9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

    11 “No one, sir,” she said.

    “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

    So Jesus does not implement the death penalty but neither does he leave her completely alone, he encourages, or even commands her to follow the law by saying ‘Go now and leave your life of sin.’ Since Jesus always prayed to the Father to guide what he did, we can expect that this sentence was the most effective way to reach out to the woman in love, and to teach others how to do the same. We would not necessarily use the same sentence, but we too would pray to the Father or the Holy Spirit to guide what we say, write and do. If we do that, we can influence people for the better even in a society where the laws still do not yet protect the unborn.

    That doesn’t mean that we can stop trying to change the law, but the law needs to be implemented in a humane way, which means not using the death penalty, but also not implementing some sentence so weak that it implies that law-makers don’t care about abortion.

    Now I’ll ask you a question: can you imagine or discover in prayer or on the internet a form of pro-life activity that fits with your talents and abilities?

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